Wednesday, October 10, 2007


Because Dustin and I didn't become Christians until we were adults, most of our old friends are unsaved. We don't get to see them very often anymore because of work, kids and sometimes location. When we do get together we hang out like we used to but we also try to show them (in subtle ways) the difference that Christ has made in our lives. The problem is that most of them have an unsavory view of Christians (judgemental, overbearing and just plain scary.)

A couple of months ago we got a copy of the new CD from the band Dustin used to play in. Here is an exerpt from one of the songs:

I saw a bumpersticker the other day
said Jesus was comin'
I thought there was something I missed
I'm guessin' when he gets back
and sees what happened
Man is he gonna be pissed

You say if I don't turn from my evil ways and repent
I'm gonna burn in hell
If heaven's eternity with guys like you
Burn in hell I might as well

Your bracelet reads "What would Jesus do?"
Aparently he's good friends with you
Which scares the hell out of me
'Cause I think you're a dick

This song made me sad. The 2 main guys from this band are good friends of ours and I know that they don't feel this way about us but obviously someone left a bad taste in their mouth. I hope and pray that I never make anyone feel like I think I'm superior because I'm a Christian. I would never want to lead someone further from, rather than closer to Jesus.


  1. Oh man...that is sobering.
    I was just thinking of the verse tonight that says "They will know we are Christians by our love."
    Its such a shame that someone represented Christ to the songwriter that way...and I hope and pray that he/she/they are not turned off to Jesus forever. I know He's able to touch even the hardest of hearts.

  2. Margaret,

    I have felt like this before, even as a Christian. The Christian voices that get the most prominence are often those acting like the Christians in the song. I have dealt with Christians online who start the judgmental name calling as soon as you don't agree with some political issue. I have Christians that I know in my life who seems obsessed with judging people.

    One of the greatest experiences I have had as a Christian started as a conversation online about the AFA and their boycott of a television show. I met someone who was far from God, who like your friends saw Christians as judgmental jerks. And people like the AFA perpetuate that stereotype.

    Anyway, after many conversations and post he told me he was once again talking to his mom about his faith. I may never know what eventually happens, but he was softened just by my speaking (or typing) with grace, humility and love.

    My suggestion would be to try to have your friends around with Christians that would not fit their stereotype.

    I don't know your friends, but I could recommend some books or blogs that might show them another side, if they are into that kind of thing.

    I think the number one thing you can do though is continue to be their friends. Continue to show them that there are some Christians that are not like that, even if it is just you and Dustin.

    You may be the only Jesus they meet in the flesh.

    But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

    Galatians 5:22-23

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